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Why do people think if you're good at math, you'll have a successful job?

I see people say that if you have a math or science degree, you'll have a high paying job. Not if you're a socially incompetent nerd like me. I'm not saying most people with those degrees are like that, but people like me end up in those programs. Actually, I'm not that good in math and already forgot everything, but I passed enough courses to get a computer science degree. Who's getting jobs? It's mostly people who have contacts - everyone knows that's more common than jobs found through ads. Something I can't do. I even asked my former boss (from a temporary job) how he got to where he was, and he said it was because he contacted his girlfriend's company. Whoops, I've never had a girlfriend because I'm unattractive. So no networking opportunity there. And my former boss, while nice, always chatted with his friends at work and not me. Or look at who entrepreneurs are - they can fund their inventions and companies because they have contacts with lots of money, or family members that do. More proof: look at the Yahoo homepage articles today: "Tweet into a new job" "Facebook Can Help You Get Hired … or Fired" "Having a social networking profile is a good thing — it presents you as technologically and professionally savvy." Guess what, I can't use Facebook because I have 0 friends. What is technology? It's just marketing. The people who invented Facebook and iPhone and Blackberry know their consumers, and know how it's like to have friends and contacts. Everyone who's successful is good at networking and advertising and following fads and having an aggressive business mentality and nepotism. Maybe if they're exceptionally brilliant; I'm not, I'm of at most average intelligence with no social skills. If you tel me to get out more, then how is anyone going to like me when I'm boring with no interests, hobbies, goals, not to mention unemployed? Actually, even if I had a social life, it won't matter if I'm not buddying up with someone from the industry. I won't, because I hate cronyism.

Public Comments

1. Sorry dude, I don't know what to tell you, except again.. you have to just get out of your comfort zone and get out there. But for the question, they think that people who are good at math understand and learn things quicker. There was some type of study that was done that showed this. That's why they have you take math... all so that colleges will see that you can understand things quicker... kind of ridiculous.
2. It isn't just about cronyism and nepotism. The connections you make with people will help you find a job because you'll find out about more jobs, and people will find out about you. People need to know how wonderful you are. They aren't going to know that if they don't know you. Another thing. I learned this the hard way. Working almost always means working with people. Those social skills you say you don't have are important for getting along with everyone at work and making sure it's a nice environment for everybody there. One jerk in the workplace brings everybody down. This is much more important than being smart and knowing everything. It applies even when everyone else in your workplace is a jerk-- how you deal with it and get along with them is way more important than your competence. You are articulate and principled. You are clearly intelligent and you are completely capable of developing social skills. Practice being nice. Force yourself. Learn it the way you learned computer science. Don't give up on it just because it didn't come naturally. Neither did programming. Do you think it's easy for everyone except you? It isn't. Read "How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie. It may make you want to throw up, but it works. And, yes, get out more. Choose a hobby at random and pursue it. Join a club.